What to do when someone values ​​your work

You brought a great idea to a meeting, and the team ran away and … they ran away, actually, the idea wasn’t yours. It is now a team effort.’ Or maybe you offered your boss a deep insight, one that they took right to the management team, and proudly displayed as their own. Maybe you stayed up late, specifically to perfect the client’s situation, only to let your colleagues take all the benefits the next morning.

Not happy.

As the creator of ‘Noble Purpose,’ I am well acquainted with the power of catchy language. Every time I get a Google alert about someone using the language I created (and tags) I click, hoping they will index my work. Usually they don’t.

A friend of mine told me early on in my career that (most of the time) that keeps me going – Good ideas don’t remember their parents. For example, people talk about Finding Your Why without realizing it was published by Simon Sinek, and GOOD TO GREAT® was popularized by Jim Collins. years before it became a common term.

When you have good ideas or get good work, it usually takes on a life of its own. But that doesn’t make it any less frustrating, especially in the world of work, where raises, raises, and opportunities are distributed based on who produces the things.

Here are three tips for managing the stressful situation when someone else approves of your work:

Respond kindly… the first time.

In most cases, the person appreciating your work doesn’t know they’re doing it. This doesn’t mean you should skip it, but it’s best for your professional reputation to save calling out an ‘idea stealer’ for later.

At first, responding with kindness usually shows the other person’s enthusiasm while also holding your own. You can say something like: I’m so glad that my first idea came to you! When I first thought about it, what I was most interested in was… was I happy with how well the client received our presentation, while I was working on it last night, that was my main goal. of the…

Often times, this is the language that lets the other person know what is going on, while allowing them to maintain their professional dignity.

Treat the opinions of others the way you would like to treat yours.

Making a strong effort to promote other people’s work will, over time, begin to create a culture of recognition (which will benefit you as well). Some of President Obama’s former female staff members have done this. According to the Washington Post, “Women’s activists used a strategy for meetings they called “amplification”: When a woman made a key point, other women repeated it, and thanked the author. . Your politics are different, this strategy works. Saying something like, “I like Jane’s idea, let’s keep building on it,” keeps the strength to move forward and establish who started it.

Write immediately.

“I don’t want to brag.” It’s a familiar cry. We all want to be appreciated for our hard work, but many of us are reluctant to acknowledge our accomplishments. Arrogant people who annoy you tend to be the ones who talk endlessly about themselves. Don’t take their aggressive behavior as the only way to tell.

Instead, justify your accomplishments in terms of the difference they make to someone else or the organization. It’s more comfortable to say, “The result” vs. “Look at me, look at me.” This classification maximizes your impact without making everything yours. This allows you to get the credit you deserve while also highlighting the value you bring to your team or organization.

Want more information on how to get credit? Check out my LinkedIn post- How to prove your achievements without bragging.

It can be a frustrating experience to put your best work forward and not get an award. But most of the time, this time is not intended as a specific sentence that we describe.

Handling these moments with grace, AND a firm decision to own your contributions, benefits your entire organization.

Lisa Earle McLeod is a consultant, advisor, and speaker, working with senior executives and sales teams worldwide.

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